Funny things........... Relationships!!!!

So I've been thinking about relationships, recently. How complicated they can get.

When we met, we had the most passionate relationship ever. We were all over each other, all the time. We kissed and got in to each others pants, anywhere, anytime, no matter who was there. We worked in the same place, and even got cautioned at work, for indecent behaviour, and got told to tone it down. It was great, we loved it, we didn't care who thought what, we just did what we wanted.

Then we got married, and things got complicated. Finances, living together, work, making a home, then wanting kids. It all put a huge strain on us. We coped, but the passion started to subside, and got replaced with everyday life. We still loved each other like day one, and on rare occasions, would still act like we did before, but mainly, we started to grow up, and take life seriously. We worked, and built a life, and had kids, and were happy. The typical 21st Century family, with kids and pets, and a mortgage.

We both missed it though, so when we decided to incorporate DD in to our marriage, the passion came back. I don't know what it was, but it was like a switch was turned, and a fire lit. We were having sex like teenagers, behind the door, or in the closet, or the car.

We were having fun. Then that started to get serious. In the world of DD, it's not supposed to be fun, it's supposed to be serious. Two Consenting Adults, Living within a Mutually Consensual Domestic Discipline Dynamic. Spankings are not supposed to be fun, It's discipline.

That's all well and good, but where is the fun ????

So we started to move away from it slowly. Starting to have fun again. Started to see things for what they are.

We both get turned on by spankings. Time to face the truth, and stop hiding behind a title.

We're having fun again. There is passion again. we're exploring, and opening up to one another. We're seeing each other as two people, and not just the person we live with, and raise kids with.

My brother is going through a divorce at the moment. It's been messy. My SIL, is a mess, and so is my brother. They've just hit rock bottom. So far away from each other, there is no end in sight. He says she's has no passion anymore, she says, he doesn't notice her anymore.

There is no specific roles in their lives. He does what he wants, she does what she wants, they come at each other 100mph, and break apart.

Did they have passion before? Yes lots, they were the talk of all other couples. Did they have fun with each other? More than any other couple I ever saw. Did they fuck each others brains out, any time they could? Hell Yeah

So what happened??

They lost each other. They forgot who they fell in love with. They stopped seeing each other. They stopped communicating, and having fun. They just became the everyday, couple next door.

I'm learning so much about myself, and my Man at the moment. I feel like we're really coming close, and loving each other. We've really come to realise how great it is to have changed the dynamic within which we live.

Is it the division and specification of the roles within our household, that gives us the strength, to solidify our relationship and marriage? Or does this kind of dynamic, give you the freedom, to be yourselves again, that brings back the spark in your life? Does it help to be honest about your feelings, and more sensitive to the feelings of your partner?

Do marriages, or relationships always start to go stale after a long time, people become complacent within their home, and stop trying as hard?

Whats the secret of a good relationship?